Thursday, 15 September 2016

My Best Advice For New Mummy's!

Being a new mummy is one of the most exciting and terrifying experiences ever. There are lots of changes that will take place in your life from now on. So, it’s handy when you have some advice to help you get started:

Understand That It Takes Time To Adjust

I’m about to hit you with the most cliche advice out there; you must understand that it takes time to adjust. Giving birth is a massive part of your life, and things will change forever. It’s understandable that this might be a shock to you at first. Obviously, you spend nine months getting everything ready. You make your home baby-proof, and get their room and crib all sorted. But, nothing can prepare you for the moment you give birth. Living with a newborn baby is a tough task, no one will deny that. Your life will be very different, and that’s normal. Don’t think that you aren’t a good mum just because you struggle early on. Everyone struggles with their first child! You’ve never had an experience like this before, how on earth will you not struggle? It’s normal, and you should get that stuck into your head. Things will take time, and you’ll gradually adjust. There’s no definitive time frame for when the adjustment will come. It takes longer for some people than others. But, believe me, you’ll get used to your new life.

Don’t Forget The Thank You’s

When you give birth, it can be easy to get caught up at the moment with your new family. But, you have to remember all the people that helped you during this difficult time. There were countless people that supported you and made life a lot easier. Think about all your friends that threw a baby shower for you. It was great and gave you lots of joy during a time where your moods were all over the place. Then, there’s the doctors and nurses that helped make giving birth as bearable as possible. It’s important that you thank everyone, as they played a huge role in your life. Especially all the friends and family that helped you out. They’ll be expecting a thank you, so, you don’t want to sour relations. Consider things like Sleepymoon Cards for baby showers & christening. A simple thank you card will be enough to put a smile on everyone’s face. Plus, thanking friends and family makes it more likely they’ll help you out again. So, when you need a babysitter, you can turn to your close relatives with confidence. You don’t want to end up doing things all on your own, so, remember the thank you’s for the people that matter most.

Rushing Is The Worst Thing To Do

Many modern mums are guilty of rushing after giving birth. What do I mean by this? I mean they try and rush back into their usual routine. They want to get back to work and return to their job. This is a problem that a lot of men underestimate. When someone becomes a new dad, their usual routine doesn’t get affected too much. They might go on paternity leave for a week, then head back into action. For us mums, it’s way different to that. We’re off on maternity leave before the baby is due. Then, we’re off after the birth to recover and stay with the baby. We could end up being off work for months during all this time. That’s a lot of time away from your job, particularly if you work full-time. Trying to balance your work and life is a huge problem for new mums. You want to get back to work, as you feel comfortable there. You like working, and earning money for the family. But, you don’t want to leave your baby, as you want to spend as much time with them as possible. In the end, too many women decide to rush back into work. Often, this is because of the first point I made at the start of this piece. Their life has changed, and they want to try and revert it back to normal. So, going to work seems like a good solution. However, I recommend you take as much time off as possible. Maternity leave is there for a reason, make good use of it. Stay with your baby and start forming that everlasting maternal bond. Plus, you could try and work something out with your job. Let’s say you do a bit of work from home, or, you slowly ease yourself back in part-time. Whatever you do, don’t rush the decision to go back to work.

Use this advice and I hope it will help make life easier for you. Don’t be afraid of being a mum, embrace the new challenges!

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